I try so hard to please. I really do. Since she joined our family I have tried to make her like me. I have no clue if she does or not. I feel like she doesn’t and she’s just being “nice” just because of our son. Honestly, even our son has his hard days with this woman. He has shared with me that he has a hard time pleasing her too.
I have tried and tried and tried over and over again and I feel rejected. My husband says she’s just a spoiled little girl where nothing is ever good.
I have cooked for her and she turns her nose up saying she’s allergic. I feel hurt by this because in some way I feel very rejected and maybe she’s thinking I’m disgusting.
I don’t know.
It’s interesting…last month we had an argument. Well actually it was with my son and she was present in the room. I got very emotional over the whole situation. He basically said that he felt like we don’t want to spend time with them? Wait what? I honestly had been busy and had kept my distance giving them space. I don’t want to be that kind of mother in law that is in my grown children’s space all the time, especially when they have a family.
Apparently, they want me in their space? And that I don’t do enough for them? What huh? (head scratch)
It’s crazy talk. And I honestly feel it’s all her talking to my son maybe saying things like “they never want to see us? or the kids? ” and Maybe she talks nonsense into his mind about us not loving him. Which is absolutely absurd because he knows us.
I even said to him: “Why are you being like this? I understand that maybe I’ve been a bit distant but to maybe stop talking to us because we didn’t call you.” He said that he was about to stop communicating with us and not say anything. Thank goodness he did!
Apparently she just “unblocked” her own mother after months of having her “blocked” because she said her mom is crazy? I’m not sure what to believe coming from this “little girl” and no she isn’t little…She’s a spoiled grown ass woman!
They just had a new baby the other day. A new grand baby and so I made cookies and soup and took it to their house. They allowed me to come by which by the way I understand how it is right after you have a new baby – those hormones are all over the place so I was very respectful of their space and time.
Nevertheless, I was there with a grand smile and hug to give to them. All was pleasant.
A few days later I hear that she didn’t eat anything I had made. My son told me. He loved it but she didn’t have one bite. Ugh! I feel so rejected. Heres the truth: It’s not that she doesn’t eat my food. I’ve seen her eat here at my house. I’ve made her special dishes just for her knowing she doesn’t like some things. And if she eats meat it’s all organic. So I got out of my way to buy her the organic ingredients.
Honestly, I’m done trying to please her. I am going to just do it for my son and grandchildren. If she eats she eats. I’m not going to take it so personal and maybe she’ll grow up one day and realize. I know how I was once upon a time. My mother in law might have been weeping without me even knowing. I was hard to please and I know I hurt her feelings. I’m sorry to my mother in law. I love you!
I hope one day my daughter in law will be easy to please.
The Messy Sister 